Growth Involves a Balance of Good and Bad

“Every success story is a tale of constant adaption, revision, and change.” —Richard Branson"

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A great teacher of mine once preached on the difference between a fixed mindset and a growth mindset. A fixed mindset is one that limits change and growth, whereas a growth mindset accepts change and promotes growth. This can be directly applied to love. Humans can either limit their ability and modes of loving, or they can allow it to flourish and impact the lives of others. Every single person on this planet has the capacity in their heart to put their differences with others aside and work together through love.  40 years of research by Stanford professor Carol Dweck proves that the growth mindset exists and that you can change from the fixed mindset to the growth mindset. By adopting the growth mindset, you can accomplish more, be more successful (which increases your happiness), and lead a more meaningful life.



Kim: Resilience, resolve, passion, work ethic, humility, adaptability, and a growth mindset. Things change fast and you won’t know everything, but you should be able to learn fast and grow with every experience. (Gross, E. L., Jun. 2018)



How do we start the process of changing our lives? I believe that the first step is to understand what it means to be a human being. This is where you begin to see yourself as an individual and not just a sum of parts. When you are able to identify your own strengths and weaknesses, then you can begin to develop those areas in which you need to improve.



What major side effects do bad influences have on our lives and how do we deal with them?. Having bad influences in our lives is like having extra baggage, or like having cavities in our teeth, we are surrounded by pain, hurt. We call into work because of the pain and hurt. We make excuses and distract ourselves with those excuses. Using home remedies that just don't work, "well, if I just wait, maybe it will sort itself out...". I believe that the most important thing is to be certain about your wants and needs. The more you know about yourself, the better off you will be. Because then you can decide who benefits your life and who doesn't. It's not always easy to make a decision but it is very important to make one with deep thought and properly analyze it.



Let’s say you feel like you’re not getting ahead at work. A fixed mindset says the situation is the way it is, and it will never change no matter what you do. A growth mindset says you can create change if you work hard, adapt to feedback and implement strategies for personal development. It goes without saying which type of people go further in their careers. (Scudamore, B., Aug. 2017)



The difference between a fixed mindset and a growth mindset is like night and day. A person with a fixed mindset believes that their abilities are traits that cannot be changed. On the other hand, a person with a growth mindset believed that their abilities are the result of their own effort. This is the difference between wanting to look smart and wanting to become smart. There are instances where you can see whether or not a person has a fixed mindset or a growth mindset. Generally, by observing how one goes about being challenged is a clear marker for their mindset





Contrast the growth mindset to the fixed mindset. The latter believes that people can't change, that we have fixed traits. Either you're born a talented writer or you're not. "It's no use to try again," a person with the fixed mindset tells herself when she receives her first rejection slip. She is afraid of looking like a failure so she gives up.  She doesn't want to be seen as a failure because she thinks everyone will see her differently.  The growth mindset is about learning from your mistakes and moving forward.  This is where I think there are two types of growth: Positive and negative.  Positive growth is when you learn something new every day.  Negative growth is when you don't know what to expect so you refuse to make decisions, procrastinating everything.  The difference between these two types of growth is that positive growth requires you to take risks and fail.  It's not easy but it can be done.  The only way to get better at anything is by taking chances. No one learns something and is great at it the first try.  But if you're willing to take a chance on yourself, then you'll never have any regrets.



As you read this article, I encourage you to adopt a "Growth Mindset" and open your mind to new perspectives. Carol Dweck, author of Mindset: The New Psychology of Success, describes the "Growth Mindset" as effort plus learning equals growth and success. This means if you put in the right effort and learn from your mistakes, you will succeed.



Faith in self is love for self



Thanks for investing time and remember, little steps are the most important!.

















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